Sleep doesn’t have to feel like a constant battle. One of the most empowering ways to support your child’s sleep is by learning to recognise and respond to their unique sleep cues. These cues are your child’s way of communicating their needs, and when we tune into them, we can create a more peaceful, connected bedtime experience.

What Are Sleep Cues? Sleep cues are subtle signs that your child is getting tired and ready for rest. These cues can vary widely from child to child, but they all share one thing in common: they’re a way for your child to communicate with you. When we notice these signals early, we can respond before overtiredness sets in, making the transition to sleep smoother for everyone.

Recognising Sleep Cues Across Ages: Each child is unique, and their sleep cues will change as they grow. Here are some common cues to look for:

• Newborns (0–3 months): Slower movements, quieting down, or staring off into space.

• Babies (4–12 months): Eye rubbing, yawning, or turning their head away from stimulation.

• Toddlers (1–3 years): Increased fussiness, clumsiness, or seeking comfort items like a blanket.

• Preschoolers (3–5 years): Difficulty focusing, whining, or becoming more active as a way to fight tiredness.

Remember: These cues aren’t one-size-fits-all. Your child’s temperament, sensory preferences, and overall day can influence how they show their need for sleep.

Why Sleep Cues Matter: When we respond to sleep cues early, we help our child avoid overtiredness—a state that can make it harder for them to settle and fall asleep. But this isn’t just about timing. It’s about building a deeper connection with your child by attuning to their unique needs and fostering a sense of safety and trust. This allows us to develop sleep routines that are tailored to their unique sleep needs and preferences rather than trying to make them fit a pre-determined generic sleep routine.

Understanding Sleep Cues in Context: Sleep cues rarely exist in isolation. They’re part of a bigger picture that includes your child’s daily routine, emotional state, and environment. For example:

• A yawn might signal tiredness—but it could also mean boredom or overstimulation.

• Fussiness might indicate sleepiness—but it could also stem from hunger, teething, or a need for comfort.

By considering factors like recent naps, activity levels, and your child’s emotional state, you can better interpret their cues and respond appropriately.

Responding to Sleep Cues with Confidence: Here’s how you can support your child when you notice sleep cues:

1. Create Calm: Respond gently with activities like rocking, humming, or reading a quiet story.

2. Prepare the Environment: Dim the lights, lower noise levels, and tidy away stimulating toys to signal that rest is coming.

3. Focus on Connection: Use positive touch, soothing words, and co-regulation techniques like deep breathing to help your child feel secure.

By responding with calm and consistency, you’re not just addressing your child’s sleep needs—you’re strengthening your bond.

What If My Child Doesn’t Show Clear Cues? Some children, especially those with sensory differences or unique developmental needs, may not exhibit typical sleep cues. That’s OK! In these cases, focusing on creating a consistent routine and observing your child’s overall patterns can be just as effective. Be open to the possibility that their sleep cues may simply look a little different and you may see a pattern emerge. Sleep cues are a tool—not a rule—and your instincts as a parent are invaluable.

BONUS - Introducing the Sleep Cue Discovery Guide: Tracking sleep cues can help you identify patterns and adjust your child’s routine to meet their unique needs. The Sleep Cue Discovery Guide is a simple, printable tracker that allows you to:

• Record your child’s early and late sleep cues.

• Note how their daily routine impacts their readiness for sleep.

• Recognise patterns over time to tailor a routine that works for your family.

This guide empowers you to respond with confidence, knowing you’re meeting your child where they are.

You can download the Sleep Cue Discovery Guide here.

It Doesn’t Have to be Perfect: Sleep isn’t a perfect science, and no two days will look exactly the same. Some nights will feel easy, while others may feel like a struggle. That’s OK. What matters is your consistent effort to show up with love, patience, and a willingness to adapt.

You’re Not Alone: Every family’s sleep journey is unique, and you don’t have to navigate it on your own. If you’re feeling overwhelmed or unsure, remember that small, intentional changes can make a big difference.

Let’s Continue the Conversation: I’d love to hear from you! What sleep cues have you noticed in your child? Are there any calming strategies that have worked well for your family? Share your thoughts in the comments below—I’d love to connect and learn from your experiences.